It’s your ex boyfriend’s birthday.
And you don’t want to just ignore it. You don’t want him to think you’ve totally forgotten it. But since he’s your EX boyfriend …
You aren’t sure if you should do it.
So the question becomes –
Should you send your ex boyfriend a Happy Birthday text message?
Most of the time, the answer is YES.
As long as you don’t have the misconception that texting your ex boyfriend on his birthday is going to magically bring him back to you.
It’s probably going to be welcomed.
After all, who gets bent out of shape if someone sends them a simple Happy Birthday, right?
If your desire to text him is because you have in your head that he’ll look down at it, fall back in love with you in that instant?
You are probably going to be disappointed!
That’s just the way it is.
It’s a good move.
But it’s just one move.
It’s not a whole process.
Of course, I said that most of the time the answer is yes. It’s not always a good idea to send an ex boyfriend a text on his birthday. Even if it is well meaning.
When shouldn’t you text your ex boyfriend Happy Birthday?
If he is currently dating someone else, you might want to think twice about sending him a text on his birthday. Or if things are still really weird or awkward between the 2 of you.
Sending him a text on his birthday if he is dating someone else right now can cause drama between him and his new girlfriend with you stuck right in the middle of it.
And that’s not a good place to be.
When things are still weird and awkward between the 2 of you? Things can get misinterpreted pretty easily. Because we interpret things through our emotions. So, for example, if your ex boyfriend thought you were too clingy and that kind of annoyed him?
Sending him a text on his birthday might get interpreted as you being clingy all over again, because it is being interpreted through annoyance more than anything else.
What’s the best text message you can send an ex boyfriend on his birthday?
Go for something really simple. Go for something that comes across as nice … maybe even sweet … but not “too much.”
A long text leaves too much room for things to be misinterpreted.
There’s too much that he might read into.
And you probably don’t want that to happen.
Even if you do want him back.
So … just send a simple, “Happy Birthday!” and see how he responds.