An ex boyfriend contacting you out of the blue can bring up lots of emotions. You might feel a little surprised, curious, anxious, angry …
A whole spectrum of emotions.
It might even bring up some feelings that you had no clue would be there.
What do you do if your ex boyfriend decides to email you out of the blue?
1. Read it.
That might sound obvious. But I have talked to women who’ve said their boyfriend emailed them out of the blue and when I asked … what did he say? They had no idea because they hadn’t actually opened and read the email.
It might be just that he wants to know what you are up to.
It might be that he has something he needs to tell you.
It might be that you still have something of his and he is hoping to get it back.
Whatever it might be, you won’t know for sure until you have actually opened the email. So you might as well.
2. Take a deep breath and relax.
Whatever the reason for why your ex boyfriend might have decided to email you out of the blue, it’s always good to take a deep breath and relax. We can’t make good decisions when we are overly emotional and doing something so simple as taking a deep breath and relaxing is often a much needed moment to get a little perspective.
3. Decide if you want to respond to your ex boyfriend’s email.
Maybe, just maybe … you’ll decide that you don’t even want to respond to him. And you know what
ex boyfriend sent me email ? You don’t have to. It’s entirely up to you.
At the same time …
Maybe you will decide that you want to email him back and if that is the case … that too is up to you.
What if your ex boyfriend emailed me after no contact?
If your ex boyfriend has emailed you after a period of no contact … it might be that the no contact period is actually working. It might be that all the time he spent without you … has made him want to reach out to you.
So what do you do?
Should you email your ex boyfriend back after no contact?
Should you prolong the period of no contact?
The thing is …
It all depends on how much time has gone by and whether or not you want to take the chance that enough time has already passed. There really is no hard and fast rule for this. It’s one of those things where you have to look at the conext of the situation and make your decision based on that.
Why does my ex boyfriend email me?
It could be for any number of reasons. I once had a friend who freaked out when an ex boyfriend emailed her and when she actually took the time to read his email? It was because he had heard of a job opening that he thought she might be interested in.
He had no interest of rekindling things. He was happy in a new relationship. But he was kind of a nice guy so when he heard of a job opening she’d be good for?
He reached out.
Lucky for her, she read the email in time and was actually able to consider taking the job.
But that option would have never been there for her had she not even opened the email in the first place.