A broken heart is undoubtedly one of the worst feelings you can ever have.
It hurts the first time it happens … and it hurts every time after that.
Worse, that broken hearted feeling can make it seem near impossible to move on with your life. So it basically keeps you feeling stuck … which deepens the broken hearted feeling.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could heal your broken heart and move on with your life?
And here’s how:
Let yourself feel as broken hearted as you do right now.
Suppressing it isn’t going to help. In fact, it’s practically guaranteed to make it feel worse. Sure, suppressing feelings can provide a little “temporary relief” … but when it comes back? It usually comes back with a vengeance. So do the thing that most women won’t do … and allow yourself to fully feel as broken hearted as you do right now.
You may be surprised at how much that feeling seems to lighten … without you have to do much of anything at all.
Realize that you’ve probably felt this way before and it didn’t last forever.
Whether it was another break up in the past or just a crush that went unrequited, you’ve probably had that broken hearted feeling before. And it eventually went away. That can (and will) happen again. We often “forget” we’ve felt certain feelings before and they didn’t last forever. In the moment, it may feel like it won’t ever go away. But a little recognition of the fact that you have felt it before and it did go away … often helps quite a bit.
Listen to some music that’ll help put you in a state where you can see yourself moving on and feeling better.
Even if it is something you’d normally call cheesy, if it puts you in the right emotional state where you can totally see yourself moving on? Listen to it. Music has a funny way of putting us in emotional states without us realizing it. And most women who are feeling broken hearted will listen to music that just makes them feel more broken hearted. Don’t do that to yourself. Instead, find some music that puts you in a much more empowered state.
Have a good long conversation with a friend.
If you need to talk about “him” do that for a little bit. But try to make the conversation NOT about him as much as you can. If all you do is talk about the guy you are trying to get over … guess what? You are not going to get over him. You are just going to think about him more and more. On the other hand, if you get together with a friend and have a good conversation and it doesn’t revolve around him … guess what? You are already moving on.
Remember the relationship as it really was.
One of the “tricks” we often play on ourselves when we are feeling heart broken is to remember the relationship almost like it was perfect. And if we do that, of course we are going to feel down and feel like it’s hard to move on. But, if you are able to see things as they really were, then I am sure that you’ll remember that it WASN’T perfect. And that is going to help you to see things from a much more rational perspective.
Take on a passionate goal and work to achieve it.
Do this when you are really feeling like you can start to move forward. When you have some momentum. Even if it’s not a lot. The reason why it should be a passionate goal is, passion allows you to move on, even when lingering parts of you do not want to move on. A passionate goal isn’t just about having a distraction. It’s about having something that you truly want to achieve that can light a fire in you and keep you moving FORWARD.
Meet someone new.
You don’t want to do this right away. This is something to do when you are really feeling like you are ready to move on. Go out and meet someone new. It doesn’t have to be a long-term relationship. In fact, it doesn’t have to be a relationship at all. Just the act of going out to meet someone new will tell you if you are really over your broken heart. If there’s still an “ache” that seems to keep you from wanting to meet someone new? It probably means that you are still stuck and need to move forward in some way.
Is it easy to heal a broken heart?
Not at first. But these 7 tips will definitely push you in the right direction. The most important thing to do is the first thing I listed. Allow yourself to fully feel your broken heart. Don’t try to suppress that feeling. And it usually will pass a lot quicker than you’d have expected.
- Let yourself feel as broken hearted as you do right now.
- Realize that you’ve probably felt this way before and it didn’t last forever.
- Listen to some music that’ll help put you in a state where you can see yourself moving on and feeling better.
- Have a good long conversation with a friend.
- Remember the relationship as it really was.
- Take on a passionate goal and work to achieve it.
- Meet someone new.