10 Signs That He Might Be The Wrong Guy For You

It can be hard to admit that you might be focusing all of your attention and your energy on a man who just might not be right for you,  but you have to also consider the fact that it might be better to find that out now rather than later on.  Being in a relationship that just isn’t going to go anywhere can be emotionally draining and it can take away any optimism that you might have had about your future.  There is no sense in trying to make something work that just won’t no matter what you do.  Doing that is just going to make you feel disappointed and there’s no need for that.

If you are dating a guy and you are not sure if he is right for you,  here are 10 signs that you might want to look for:

1)  You feel like you really cannot trust him on what he says.

Trust is a big deal when it comes to figuring out whether or not you can have a healthy long term relationship with someone.  When you feel like you really just can’t trust the guy you are dating,  you are going to always feel a little bit insecure,  which is no fun at all.  While it is true that trust usually builds with time,  if you feel like there is none there at all,  that might be the sign that you may be with the wrong guy.

2)  He wants to flirt with every woman he comes into contact with.

Some men are just naturally flirtatious and that is not always a bad thing.  However,  if you have noticed that he seems to have to flirt with each and every woman that he comes into contact with,  this might be a sign that he will stray from the relationship someday.  I wouldn’t say that this is always a sign that he is wrong for you,  but it is something that you might want to keep your eye on and be aware of.

3)  He is abusive.

Whether he is abusive to your or to other people,  this is something that I would not ignore,  nor would you want to make excuses for that behavior.  Being in an abusive relationship, whether it is mental/verbal abuse or the physical kind is something that you don’t have to put up with.  You don’t have to feel like there is no other option.  There are plenty of guys out there who wouldn’t act that way and to be honest,  you’d be better off being single than to be with a guy who has an abusive side.

4)  He doesn’t seem to want to do any of the things that you want to do.

Okay,  so you are probably not going to meet a guy who literally likes all of the things that you do and always wants to do exactly what it is that you want to do.  On the other hand, if you feel like you and he are never on the same page when it comes to the things that you’d like to do,  then that may be a sign that you just don’t have enough things in common to sustain a long term relationship that is going to be full of life.

5)  He has a history of cheating.

Even if his history of cheating happened when he was with other women and it hasn’t happened to you just yet,  you may want to be cautious about proceeding with a long term relationship with him.  It’s kind of a cliche to say that he will never change and there are definitely examples of guys who do… it’s just that you don’t want to play with fire if you don’t have to.

6)  You just don’t feel a lot of attraction towards him.

Maybe you did when you first met him.  Or maybe you were at a point in life where you decided that you would date a guy and not worry about whether or not the physical attraction there.  Well,  while it may be a nice thing to say that it doesn’t matter,  you know full well that there has to be some attraction or else you are going to get bored or restless.

7)  You don’t feel like you are a priority to him.

It’s important to feel like you are really special to the guy you are dating.  You want to see evidence that you really are someone special to him and that you do take precedence in his life.  If he doesn’t seem to be capable of showing you that you are,  then you might want to reconsider the relationship.  Could you really stand to be with a guy for a long time when he doesn’t know how to show that you really matter to him?

8)  He expects you to take on a role that you don’t want to take on.

Let’s say that he wants you to take on the very traditional role in the relationship and do things like cook his dinner and do his laundry and you don’t want to step into that role.  No matter what,  that is definitely going to cause friction down the road.  That is definitely something that you want to think about before you decide to make any kind of commitment to him.

9)  Your political views are completely different.

Sometimes this is not going to be a big deal and sometimes it will.  If you feel like you would like to be in a relationship where you can openly talk about these kinds of things and you know that it is always going to lead to a big argument –  that might be something that you want to think about as well.

10)  He doesn’t get along with any of your friends.

Wouldn’t you like to be able to go out with your boyfriend and have your friends come along for the ride?  Well,  if he can’t seem to be able to get along with any of your friends,  that probably will not happen.  Things like this may not seem like a big deal when you are first dating a guy and you only want to be around him.  However,  when you are a few months into it,  you might change your mind.